• child abuse •
you know you’re a survivor when it takes years to be able to admit out loud that you’ve been abused, and even then you still feel like you’re lying when you say it. 
When a child is punished for their honesty, they begin to lie.
One of the most ludicrous things parents say is “Why aren’t you more grateful to us for feeding, clothing, and sheltering you?!”It’s because you’re the parent. You have a duty to feed, clothe, and shelter your children. You’re not doing them a favor by making sure they don’t starve. You’re fulfillin...
Being abused can seriously affect your ability to distinguish between “not obviously pleased” and “obviously displeased” because abusers go from Neutral to Hostile for absolutely no discernible reason, and eventually you start worrying that everyone is going to be like that and you start feeling t...
The "Good" Abuser [tw: abuse]
Abusers often rely on being the “sensible ones” – some of the best abusers have learned how to keep their tone of voice measured, calm, and reasonable-sounding, when they are speaking to the people they aren’t abusing. This ensures that their victim has a harder time telling ...
news flash: spanking a child is child abuse. thank you and good night.
I need your help
For many years, my father sexually abused me. As a way to keep my quiet about the sexual assaults, my parents helped pay my tuition and rent. Last July I had enough. Enough secrets, enough lying, enough pretending I’m not hurt, and enough pretending I’m not scared for other kids. I repor...
Okay so imagine that a mother gives birth to a baby boy. And imagine that the mother really wanted a girl instead. So the mother decides to raise the child as a girl. She buys pink clothes, little dresses, hair pins, scolds the child when he “doesn’t act ladylike” etc etc etc.Most people would see t...
you have to keep reminding yourself that: yes, those things really happened to you no, you’re not overreacting or mis-remembering yes, it “counts” yes, you deserve to share your truths
“Conversion therapy” is child abuse. There is no gray area. There is no wiggle room. The fuckers who practice it are abusers. The fuckers who send their children off to be “converted” are abusers. Assholes who say “I wouldn’t do it, but that’s their right as...
Trauma itself is evidence of abuse.
I think a lot of us have been there. We wonder if it was really abuse. We wonder if we’re just overreacting or if maybe we just need to toughen up & suck it up. We compare ourselves to other people who have been abused, and we say “Well, I didn’t go through what they went throu...
What trauma survivors need is gentleness. Because no one was ever gentle with us.
Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom. But the personality formed in an environment of coerci...
You know when people say “It doesn’t hurt to ask” or “It doesn’t hurt to try”… I think what they don’t understand is that for many of us it DOES hurt, a lot. For me, in childhood, I learned that asking and trying could indeed be dangerous and that it ...
tf2 Engineer child abuse
The fact that the phrase “don’t hit your kids” is so contested and “controversial” is beyond fucked up. Physical punishment is abusive and leads to long term mental health issues, increased risk of substance abuse, further child abuse and future abusive tendencies in victims (cited in first link). 
Were You Born Under The Gaslight?
When applied to a family, the gaslight treatment is a special form of dysfunction. It happens when you, a child, receive messages or encounter experiences within the family which are deeply contradictory. Messages which are opposing and conflicting; experiences which can’t both be true. When you can...
Abusers teach you that the monsters are everyone and everything that is not them. That they are the kindest people you will ever meet — that...
Fucking P fucking S fucking A
ABUSE AND PTSDDon’t fucking hit your children.Don’t fucking scream to your children.Don’t fucking lead your children to think that it’s all their fault.Don’t fucking remove essential contact methods and coping resources from your children.Don’t fucking try to force a path on your children.Don’t fuck...